‘If it’s meant to be, it’s up to me. Take responsibility for your life’.

I found this on a post it note which I wrote at some point and it came in to my eye line just when I needed to see it, I must have read or heard it somewhere and thought I would need to read it again.

It was kind of ironic that I found when I was thinking about getting my tarot cards out again.

Over the years I had not been convinced in card readings but at the same time I have always been intrigued by them… And more recently I invested in a deck of my own and started learning a bit more about it.

The first guy I ever had do a reading was pretty good, he told me some stuff that was un-guessable like the layout of my mum’s house and that it was connected to another family member. From my palm reading he told me about my personality (which I have read books on and there is scientific research on) and these people are good at reading people (ever watched Lie To Me? You should watch it, people are fascinating).

The next time I went to someone I was told, your life is going to be based around your career, there is not much about a love life but there could be something around Christmas (many Christmases came and went and no boy) who would be older (but that could be days or weeks not necessarily years) and there might be someone younger (again could be days or weeks) and you will travel with work – that travel could be between my house and the gym though… talk about covering all bases!! I did not leave that reading feeling anything other than ripped off.

I do wonder though if the first card reading had made me subconsciously make choices that I might have otherwise chosen differently.

I know a couple of people who regularly get their cards done and live their life by what they are told. One of them has traveled the world because of what she had read, which is maybe not a bad thing if it wasn’t something she had considered before. It may have given her the drive to make it happen.

I am more a believer in creating your own destiny, if you don’t like the direction your life is going it is up to you to make the changes you need.

The cards I suppose people are just looking for some reassurance. The more I read and learn and practice with my own deck, the more I realise that what comes through and what you take as the understanding is what is going on in your subconscious mind at that time. You still have the power to make a change.

Whatever it is, you are the only one who can make the changes to your life, there are always choices.

Your job, home, social life, friends, weight, fitness, beliefs…

How often has someone told you something about you (not a fortune teller, but a family member or friends) that you believe to be true? You are shy, you are nervous, you don’t believe in yourself, you are not confident?

How quick are you to believe that is right about you?

On the other side when you are paid a compliment you don’t take it on board so quickly. You are confident, you are beautiful, you look amazing, you are smart…

We seem to challenge these positive thoughts and accept the negative.

Is it the same when we get cards read? We believe the bits that we want to believe.

I prefer:

If it’s meant to be, it’s up to me. Take responsibility for your life.

I would love to hear what you believe & think about it. Do you live by the cards or make your own destiny?